Last Friday, I went to a meaningful trip to Johore with my elder brother ( Kamal). It was one day trip and it’s been a long time since he got married. That was the first time I ever got into his green BMW for a long trip. We were heading to a ‘ Kenduri Tahlil for’ my late grandpa. As usual, a typical ‘OLDIES’ people were asking me when I’m going to get married? As always, my answer is simple and sweet:

“Ala, Eija lambat lagi la!”

(But deep in my heart, I was like shouting – ISH! Dorang ni sibuk pasal KAHWIN!!!!)


Along the trip back to KL, I was so surprised with the conversation that I had with Kamal ( 36 years old IT Manager with one daughter and supportive wife ). Instead of we were discussing about my flying things, he did teach me about finding a life partner. I totally did not expect he would approach that topic. All my life, he was the best mentor upon my behaviour, studies and career life but NOT AS A LOVE MENTOR. The hilarious part was he knew I am actively having the time of my life like ‘Clubbing’ Haha! He couldn’t agree if I was hanging out with Ikan Kerapu, Ikan Bilis or, Ikan Siakap. He said in humour that those aren’t ALPHA MALES or even THE JAWS. Funny! Funny! I wasn’t stop laughing along the night.




He is part of my immediate booster to reach out anything good that I’ve plan for my life beside my dad ‘HIS WORDS ARE MAGIC’. He is one of person that I do literally respect when it comes to motivation. In short, I will only listen to people that I’ve seen qualities in them. The qualities which never be used to look down on me but to inspire me more. Some people will be motivated by harsh words but I am not one of them. Trust me, I hardly absorb some people advice because in my heart I don’t salute them much or most slight they are not a MAGIC LEADER in my eyes. Well, Kamal got me there! It was amazing trip!

Speaking of LEADERS, I am not saying they are the leaders of the country or an aggressive politicians but at least a leader to their own progressive life included financial, career, education and fun life. I will not going to listen to a ‘GEEK IN THE PINK’. Since I was little, I was fascinated by a clever, fair skin, sportive boy. Like my brother said, he knew that I am very interested with an outgoing man which also known by him as an ALPHA MALE. So what is the total idea of an alpha male? Who is he? What he does in life? Well, let me telling you more. Let us find out who is the guy that lies beneath APLHA MALE.



To start with, we all agree that the alpha male is a “man’s man”. Always a leader, confident, some might say arrogant. Not interested in the creative arts and doesn’t care if you think he should be. This is the guy you’d want with you if you were lost in the jungle because he would keep you safe and get you out of there. I think it’s important to note that I see two types of alpha males. One is the type who is high on his own testosterone. He gets road rage, abuses women and children, and fights with guys in bars. This is clearly the undesirable alpha.

The other type is an evolved alpha. He is a leader in business, a commander in combat, the strength of his family, and a loving partner. He loves very feminine women, “girly girls” but also wants intelligence and independence in a woman because he wants an equal, not a subordinate. A true alpha is not threatened by strong women. He admires them.I had recent bad romance, It was early this year where he actually not genuine in supporting my business, then he turned into inferior complex creature each and every time I got press coverage then in the end he damaged my blooming success indirectly. I should thank to Allah that moved me away from him even it was tough for me to let go initially. Like my dad always said: Don’t involve with CULPRIT!


So far, there were only two Alpha Male I ever dated which the first love when I was 15 and the second one was 25 years old . They were brilliant, sportive, resourceful, off soil and romantic people. It was my lost but at least I’ve learnt about “Looks may capture the eyes but it's the personality captures the heart”. I know my Mr. Alpha is coming towards me but a bit late because he is walking while I’m flying!

We both are moving towards the meeting point now. I strongly believe it.